Calling all farm wives and all of you girls who live on farms. This post is specifically for YOU. All of you wanna be farmer girls and at heart farm girls, feel free to jump in, but be forewarned:
The kid gloves are off. This post is about the nitty gritty, dirt under your finger nails, hard work, sweaty, stinky, chaotic, too much to handle, stressful life of a farm wife. No romanticism will be found here today.
Those of you currently running your farm know what I’m talking about. Our friends think that we live in the idealistic peaceful environment, no stress, animals always where they are supposed to be, happy and free children, and satisfied customers. Sure there are moments it’s like this, but lets face it, being a farm wife/farmer is HARD work. Long, long summer hours that extend to the seasons after and before summer.
A couple of weeks ago, I had the privilege of spending some time with Adele from Hippo Hollow Farms in TN. We are both homeschooling farm wives who also run marketing for our farms. We manage all of the normal day to day household operations and also farm.
I realized within the first 2 minutes of our chat that I was not alone. Here was another woman who was facing the same struggles that I face. How in the world do you get a decent meal on the table and homeschool the kids while still keeping up with the farm chores and customer calls? After all, isn’t clean healthy food the reason we farm in the first place?
How do you show support to your husband who is working just as hard as you? How do you manage to find some time to take just for yourself? What is time to yourself? Is that important?
I’m writing this from Jackson, Mississippi at the Stockman Grass Farmer Marketing school. I have had the privilege of being one of the teachers here for the last 6 years. Yesterday during lunch, I was again privileged to sit with another farm wife who also struggles with the same “how do we manage it ALL” mentality. It occurred to me in talking to these women here at the conference that we all are faced with exactly the same issues.
Now, I know this is magnified, because let’s face it, we’re coming off the busy summer season and for most of us the season isn’t yet over – yes, we still have Turkey season to go.
I made the comment to Adele and to a couple of the ladies here yesterday, “Wouldn’t it be awesome to be able to sit down with other farm wives and talk to them about how they manage their time?”
Just in talking to these two gals, I have already learned some things that I’m planning to incorporate into my daily routines to help ease things a little. And I was amazed to learn that what I had to share was helpful to them.
So over the course of the next little while (I’m certainly not going to promise regularly scheduled posts, ok?) I would love for all of us women to have a virtual chat. Let’s talk about menu planning, homeschooling, raising kids, supporting our husbands, dealing with customers, cleaning house, Time management, vacations, taking time for us and all of the other crazy things in life that deep down we LOVE and couldn’t imagine life without.
Brutal honesty. No judging allowed.
So for today, let’s start with this:
Tell us a little about yourself and what role you play on our farm. Please try not to hyperventilate when you start listing it all out. The rest of us girls have got your back. Okay?
What is something that you would like to see changed?
If you don’t know, just give us the idea. For instance, I’ve been way too busy this year and to be brutally honest, if every year is going to be this hard, I’m ready to quit. No it’s not been a bad year. No, there was nothing tragic. I’m almost embarrassed to admit, because I know many out there who have had some major health concerns or lost loved ones this year. It has just been one of those years where…
Let’s see, how can I explain it?
Well, I have a list of things to get done everyday and if I don’t plan my day and run it “just so” not everything that I needed to get done that day will get done. And nothing on the list is optional for another day.
I haven’t had any time to “waste”. Does this make sense? Not that I make a habit of wasting time, but I do like to sit down for 5-15 minutes every once in a while and just enjoy the fact that I crossed something off the list. It just occurred to me last week, that I haven’t even been reveling in getting something accomplished. Just moving onto the next thing.
But another farm wife told me that I needed to stop and take just a minute to smile at thought of getting something accomplished. Awesome idea. It’s been too insane for me to think about such a thing.
Okay, enough about me, I want to hear from all my other farm chicks out there.
What are you facing right now?
Please leave a comment and please take a moment to encourage other farm wives who leave comments.
Let’s join together and if we can be together in person, let’s come together in spirit!
P.S. My appearance of having it all together can be seen on my Instagram feed.