Why is this? Is it because there is no accountability? Or because the year is new, do we expect ourselves to be new too? More focused, more responsible, more reliable.
Personally, I have always been one to shy away from New Year’s Resolutions. Why? Because I figure if I can’t do it every day since I thought of the decision, then what makes a change in date so special? Cynical? Maybe. I like to call it realistic.
There has been one new year’s resolution that I kept. About 4-5 years ago now, I decided to purge my house of all high-fructose corn syrup (HFCS). We already didn’t buy anything with any sort of other artificial sweeteners in it. On January 1, 2008, (I think) I made the resolution to take that year and make sure that nothing I bought from then on would have HFCS in it.
I did it and am still doing it to this day. I went on to add soybean oil, dyes, preservatives, etc to the list. Why did this work and others not?
Here’s my theory. It was a goal or maybe even something as strong as a conviction. And it was something that I KNEW I could do without having to depend on anyone else for the results. If my hubby or kids brought home something that had the HFCS in it. I didn’t sweat it. I was committed to not buying it. It became the norm for us to not eat HFCS instead of the opposite. That was my ultimate goal.
At that time, there weren’t many options for alternatives. It completely changed the way that I cooked. No more ketchup or pickles or salad dressings, no more canned soups, no more boxed Mac & cheese, no more store-bought bread. No soft drinks of any kind. Now, companies have started catching on and have even started advertising that they there is no HFCS in their product.
By then, I had gotten so used to “cooking long hand” that I no longer depended on ingredients that I could make myself. Need italian dressing? Just had equal parts of vinegar and olive oil, then whatever seasonings strike your fancy. Voila. You’re done. Cooking completely from scratch became the norm.
Does this mean that I make EVERYTHING from scratch? If only I was that pure. No way.
So this year as I contemplated resolutions, I realized that they only work if you realize that you are not going to be perfect. You have to work some forgiveness into your plan. If your resolution is to cut out all sweets until you lose a certain amount of weight – build forgiveness into that. When you fail, pick up the next day and move on. Don’t beat yourself up for it. You will never win.
Also, if you’re like me, you will have the tendency to give up when you first “fail”. Don’t. Pick yourself up by the bootstraps and press on. This is the difference between success and failure. Not everyone who was successful, succeeded the first time. They succeeded because they kept on. They continually pressed toward their goal, picking themselves up off the ground after every failure.
None of us is perfect, we all fail. Can you be determined? Can you make a mistake and move on?
I’m going to leave you with a quote from my father-in-law, I know that I’ve written here before, but it seems very appropriate for this post.
Anything worth doing, is worth doing poorly, at first.
Give yourself the grace and patience to fall flat on your face first. Because only then will you truly learn to fly!
Your Turn: What goal or resolution have you made this year? What are you putting in place to better reach it?
Also, I have a question for you all…Would you like to continue the chapter by chapter discussion of Folks, This Ain’t Normal or should we move on. I’m happy to continue it, but I don’t want anyone to be bored. 🙂 Please leave your reply, I would highly value your opinion and vote!